Overall Grade: D
Starring: Daniel, Jenny, Philip, Sarah, Assorted Friends and Family
2013 was a tumultuous year. Lots of good. Lots of bad. It’s about to get super personal up in this bitch, so get ready.
The year started out on an interesting note. I rang the new year in with a friend from elementary school, Sarah, with whom I had recently reconnected. Lots of drinking occurred, and she and I wound up kissing. Shortly thereafter, we decided to start dating. And so began one of the most passionate relationships in which I have ever been. As cliche as this sounds, she really did make me want to be a better person. I embarked on several personal improvement projects. I lost a significant amount of weight, I got my personal health in order, and started seeing a therapist to work on my mental health. The one I started with was crap; she’d check her phone in the middle of sessions, and didn’t seem to really listen. Quick to diagnose and suggest medication, which I was not too huge on. I found a new one and was incredibly pleased with his support. I still regularly see him and get a lot of great insight with each session.
Early in January, I tried to get some friends together to shave their heads for the St. Baldrick’s Foundation, a charity which helps fight childhood cancer. We couldn’t agree on a date for any existing event, so we decided to put together an event of our own in March! A really incredible experience, the foundation of St. Baldrick’s is a really incredible group with which to work. We gathered a great amount of things for a raffle, and had a lot of people willing to shave their heads for such a great cause. The volunteers we got to help out with the minutiae of the the actual event and our host, local brewery Natty Greene’s, all combined to make our event the success it was, with us raising over $10,000! Without a doubt one of the best things I have ever done.
Shortly thereafter I turned 25 in April! Not a whole lot occurred with it…just had a great birthday with friends and family. By that time, Sarah and I had decided to move in together! We moved in to a mutually new place in May. Our relationship was going…nowhere near well enough to have made the decision to move in, and definitely not as quickly as we did.
For Valentine’s Day, I received a gift of tickets to see one of my favorite bands, Guster, in Boston! I’d wanted to go to Boston for some time, and Sarah, my girlfriend, got us tickets to see them and Dispatch (one of her favorites) in Boston in June. It was very exciting! We planned a really great trip and went up there for a weekend. We got to see some great stuff, the historical aspects of that town are so incredible.We also went to the Harpoon brewery, which was great! It was a really fun time.
By the time we got back, it was evident our relationship was going south. It still took a couple of months for things to finally end. A whole bunch of drama went down during her birthday celebration weekend between her and my best friend, Philip. Lines were drawn and she made me pick between the two of them. After stating I was unwilling to do so, we decided that it was time for us to go our separate ways. It was a rough and tumultuous break-up, which led me to realize that it was easily the worst relationship I have been in. I was not treated with much respect, and I let myself get taken advantage of a lot throughout the course.
September rolls around and I get to a major, major milestone in my life: I moved into my own apartment! It had been truly incredible living on my own. Expensive, I’ve had to cut come things back, but truly worth it. I also started going to college! 7 years after graduating high school I realized it was time to start my continued education, focusing on Business Administration. My English 111 class was great fun; I got to write about friends of mine, talk about existentialism, and wound up with an A in my first ever college course!
In October, I hosted a month-long movie marathon of horror movies (for the second year in a row)! My reviews came from that, and I heartily enjoyed each movie and the experience. Only one movie was watched on my own; the company was greatly appreciated during the rough waters of the recent break up. The support of my friends, particularly those who picked movies for me, meant the world.
November and December flew by. A couple of trips up to Richmond to enjoy improv comedy festivals with my improv team, A really crazy time at work, including getting turned down for a couple of new positions, a new manager at work, and becoming a real leader within my business group…an incredibly satisfying year at work. The rest of the year sped by…a couple of intense revelations about my life and my past relationships that my friends were around for to really help me through.
I got to see so many bands this year: Guster and their strings, Guster and Dispatch, They Might Be Giants, The Mountain Goats, several local bands, and a show of Guster (3 times this year), Barenaked Ladies, and Ben Folds Five! A crazy year with lots of highlights, and one driving force for its lowlights. Getting to see one of my favorite bands (The Mountain Goats) that I hadn’t seen before in a great venue that’s about to close (The Soapbox in Wilmington) was a specific highlight along with the incredible experience of the St. Baldrick’s event, which I’ve already started organizing for 2014.
Unfortunately, some of the highlights turned into lowlights when I realized what they truly were in the context of my relationship, so all-in-all, this year was not that great. 8 months of a mess and 4 months of incredible support and friendship in the last part of the year. Thanks to everyone reading this who has been there for me during my rough times. I may still be a little self-involved going in to 2014; I have a lot of stuff to work through emotionally still, and have to focus on myself to get it resolved.
My Rating: 64